Posts Tagged success

Finally, I’ve Discovered the Secret to Motivation!

18 June 2012

I have changed a lot in the last few months. I had a year vacation that I’ve only just returned from. A year of sex, drugs, and rock’n'roll- debauchery unending. The year was amazing, I had a total blast and learned a lot about myself as a person. But learning who you are is not quite the same as growing into someone new. Just knowing who you are isn’t enough to make you a better person- you have to DO something with that knowledge. After a year of introspection without action, I returned home and resumed my personal development. Within weeks I’d changed so much about myself I don’t even want to write it down because no one would believe me. I hope in this and future posts I can capture some of the metamorphosis I’ve undergone.

Let’s kick this off with my most evasive opponent, my oldest foe, the patriarch of all productivity- Motivation. For years I thought motivation was the thing I lacked and the reason I never accomplished anything. Instead of taking RESPONSIBILITY for my procrastination I took the VICTIM stance and blamed my ineffectiveness on my utter lack of motivation. “Well I’m not motivated, so I don’t do what I’m supposed to.” See that? That’s a victim statement, which I’ll talk about later. Just keep it in mind.

So by blaming motivation for many of my failures, both personal and professional, I attributed a cause that I thought I could ‘fix’. If I could just figure out what motivated me I could accomplish so much! If I could find that one thing to drive me throughout life I’d be unstoppable! I cannot tell you how many things I tried, how many books I read and how many excuses I made on my journey to become a motivated individual. I decided money didn’t motivate me, because offers of money didn’t make me work harder. I decided objects don’t motivate me, because I’m not really a materialistic person. (Which I am, but ‘stuff’ doesn’t sound like its worth working for.) My journey went on, I’ll spare you the details.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but I’d discovered and perfected a new form of procrastination! I call it, “Discovering the Cure for Procrastination.” I now know that instead of working like I was supposed to I was looking for an external reason for my laziness. An unrealistic and imaginary ‘cure’ for an ‘affliction’ I had diagnosed myself with. Then, only just a few weeks ago I was reading a personal development book. It wasn’t geared towards motivation, it wasn’t supposed to help specifically with procrastination, it was just something on my Mom’s bookshelf called “Failing Forward” by Danielle Laporte. Within this book held the answer I’d searched for during the last five years. YEARS I have been blaming my lack of motivation for failures.

Within the pages of this unassuming book was the holy grail of advice: “Motivation comes AFTER you begin.”

Just that. Sounds simple. Danielle writes that motivation is a trap we set for ourselves- you spend all your time looking or waiting for motivation as an excuse to not have to do the things you don’t want to do. The way to become motivated.. is to start a task BEFORE you’re motivated. After you meet some success or realize it just isn’t as hard as you made it out to be in your head, the motivation to complete the project will set in. I don’t know if this hits home with anyone else or not but I felt like I was hit in the pit of my stomach with a hammer as I realized my procrastination is my fault. Of course I always told others that I only had myself to blame for procrastinating but deep, deep down I knew it was not my fault. It was ‘Motivation’s fault, I’m just the victim here.

If you struggle with procrastination or lack of motivation as I did, I encourage you to really take this post to heart. Don’t let yourself play victim to your struggles and remember in order to be motivated you only have to start! ‘Motivation comes AFTER you begin!’

Be Incredible

7 August 2010

Go ahead and make the conscious decision to be incredible. It takes two steps to be incredible, and they are easy. The first step is the hardest- making your conscious decision known. I announced mine on Facebook the other day. “I have decided to be incredible.” Deciding to change yourself in a drastic way(mine’s not so drastic, I was already up to awesome) is something I used to do in my head. I’d think to myself, “yeah, today will be good”. And it usually was. However, I’ve found that when I says something out loud or tell someone else just how awesome I’m going to be today, it tends to get me more fired up than if I kept it to myself. I’m not sure why, exactly, but somehow letting others know what you intend to accomplish during the day makes you more likely to follow through. It can be something as simple as doing the dishes or cleaning your room, or something as complex as stopping an addiction(I gave up candy) or making a big change in your life. Go out and tell someone you have decided to be incredible, and mean it. Even posting it on Facebook will make you that much more likely to fulfill your goal or make that change.

The second step is easy- Listen to yourself. Believe that you are incredible and you will act accordingly. Just have it be something you think about a few times a day or when you weigh a decision. Take actions that you think get you closer to being incredible and avoid those that you feel bring you away from your goals. Project your incredible-ness to those around you through posture, speech, and behavior and they will quickly come to look up to you as someone they want to be. They won’t know why, but they will know so and so is successful

Not sure how to act incredible? Find someone who already is, study them and find out what exactly is appealing to other people and then make it your own. Don’t copy them though- adjust their behaviors to yourself to be sure you are unique. Trying to copy someone else’s success comes off badly, I’ve noticed.. Anyhoo, I’ve talked enough. Be all you can be (incredible) and don’t run with anything pointy, slicey, or pokey.

Note To Self- Keep shoulders up and back and sit up straight all day.

Become Absolutely Positive

15 April 2010

“Absolute” is a term used to describe something that will never change, or Vodka. Being Absolutely Positive doesn’t mean you look at things on the bright side, or that your cup is half full, or that when it rains you can still play in the puddles. It means regardless of what happens to you on a day to day basis, you feel as though you can still accomplish anything. If you have to rationalize in your head “well that sucks, but at least I’m not dead” (or something similar) then you don’t qualify in my opinion. I don’t profess to be Absolutely Positive but I think I’m getting close. To me, Absolutely Positive means that regardless of what happens to you (dog gets hit by a car, stub your toe, fail a test), negativity doesn’t even cross your mind. You can walk around all day feeling good and at any time be able to say “man, I love my life” with sincerity. I’m not saying you have to be heartless about your dog being hit, but it’s unproductive and unnecessary to “why me” yourself to a depression. Obviously, this is the Extreme, and if anybody actually accomplished this they’d likely be annoying to be around. However, trying to get there won’t hurt. Nobody is more productive than someone who is feeling positive and good about themselves and their life.

Here is a secret– once you start enjoying life for itself, and not what it can give you, things happen. It sounds cheesy when people say “I became positive and landed the career I love, the woman of my dreams, and am continually happy” but I’m starting to figure out that ridiculous fairy tale is totally true. I started by trying to be positive about the little things, like high fiving people for small things like when I take out the trash, or doing a little dance after I complete a project. Sure, it felt dorky at the time, but now I’m constantly dancing around the gym or on my way to the dumpster or skipping in circles on the way to my car.

When someone says just being positive landed them their job, there is a little more to the process than that. Future employers and colleagues might have watched your growth over the last few months from someone who was just like everyone else, to the person everyone wants to be. “Man, I wish I was that happy.” I hear that a lot, from my boss, from my peers, from the girl who makes my sandwich at Subway. Although you may not feel like you’re being productive with your attitude, you build rapport with everyone you interact with subconsciously.

Unfortunately I’m still working on the “girl-of-my-dreams” thing, but even that is going remarkably well. Turns out the girl I’ve liked for the last year and a half or so has had a crush on me too. Who knew. I asked her what started her crush, and she said it was “the vibe” I give off. After talking about it a little more it turns out just being positive and truly enjoying my life without expecting life to go out of its way to hand me something is attractive. You learn something new every day.

Well class is almost out so I gotta wrap this up… BE ALL YOU CAN BE. Every day. No exceptions. And don’t run with the scissors. No good can come of it.


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